Dear Reader,
Today I will attempt to combine a few important topics that I feel are currently present before our eyes and, yet, somehow hidden from really being seen. 'Soul' is not an easy term to define as there is a mystical element to it. We can attempt to understand a soul like a formless sponge that constantly absorbs and releases elements from and into its environment. Like every living organism it operates with an 'input' and 'waste' process. It is made of specific material (qualities) such as hardness, density, colour, smell and so on. Through various interactions and processes these qualities continuously change, hence, we can say that soul is a dynamic being rather than a static and fixed one. Every experience and the related feelings have an impact, a consequence on that 'sponge'. The action we take to respond is just the top of the iceberg. It is the partial manifestation of one's internal world and not his whole world. It is the way that someone is able to be present in that situation. The experience and the feeling that comes from the initial experience interact with the existing structure of the sponge and in some way they affect it. Its impact can be permanent or temporary, deep or shallow, manageable or overwhelming and so on. In any case, there is a change, the experience has left its mark and became part of the history of transformations that this soul is going through. It is really magical if we think about it, that with every experience we alter, we become someone new, a new consistency, a new arrangement, a new potential! Based on this new consistency we respond to that experience and the subsequent ones. Through action one exercises their strength, power, force onto something. We show ourselves, we make ourselves known, through our actions we exist. We, also, exist through our internal experiences, our internal world. When someone's experiences, feelings and actions are not being seen and acknowledged by themselves and/or someone else, then it is like they do not exist. Imagine there is a child who attempts to make contact with their environment το express their needs, their feelings and there is no response to them from their parents. What happens then? There is no mirror, no acknowledgment, no light shed on their darkness, they remain hidden in their caves. mainly physically alive. This child will grow into an adult with very little, if any, contact with their deep inner experiences and their impact on their soul; with little, if any, contact with the respective experiences of other people, bound into a limited world. This limited internal world, consequently, they will manifest outside, with their thoughts, feelings and actions they will represent their internal reality. Can you see examples of this in today's world? Maybe how we have prioritised money over other values such as health and education? Maybe how we still consider some people less worthy with less rights than us? Maybe how we often treat one another with severe judgment and lack of respect? All of us, whether we are aware of and honour it or not, we have the potential of a very rich internal and external life. If having such life is one of our values, then, I imagine we will consciously try to nourish it, to feed it, we will sow and reap again and again, no matter how hard this might be. We will take ownership of our field of existence, our soul and appreciate it by keeping it alive, well maintained and growing. For whatever reason, this might not be the goal for everyone on earth. Some people might prioritise other things such as survival, accumulation of wealth, pleasure and so on. It is their exercise of freedom to do so, it is their right and it is the right of other people to prioritise other values. What happens then when these two sets of people live side by side? They can choose to live separately, they can fight endlessly or they can come into a baseline agreement. We can find ourselves feeling angry and hating someone for what they represent, what they have done or not done to us and rightly so, if that experience has caused some adverse change to our soul and the way we exist the world: we may be hurt, maybe we became less trusting in people, maybe we are more afraid that hurt is going to happen again and so on. These feelings create a dark impact on our soul, that life is dangerous and people can hurt us at any time. However true that may be, we can also decide to still risk to trust other people fulfilling that way our desires, without letting past experiences determining our future decisions. On a instinctual level the child that is not being seen for what they experience and express, they scream and shout, they demand what they deserve, they do not give up until they succeed in what they want. This is the wildness of children that we often silence with sweets, with blaming speeches, with quieting imperatives and so on. We often do so because it reminds us of our tamed wildness that we forgot in order to live a modest and conventional life. It is the sum of all these supressed wildness' that succumbs to 'higher powers' and restrictions, that tells other people that what they are doing when they are protesting is wrong, what they are doing when they are creating a different life than ours is worrying, what they are doing when they are suggesting something new is futile. A soul like everything else is not necessarily good or bad in itself. It rather flourishes when seen and loved or diminishes when hidden and hated! When is being seen and loved, she does not have any reason to attack or restrict herself or anyone else, because she knows how important freedom and respect are for her. When is being seen and loved, she does not impose other people to sit still, because she knows how important moving through is. When is being seen and loved, she does not tell anyone else who and how to love and who not, because she knows the expansion of love. When is being seen and loved, she can accept survival, failures and lessons as important parts of life as she appreciates hers and everyone else's lives as they unfold. Being wild does not live in extremes as we have been told by our collectively tamed sides. Wildness is a necessity of the soul, one of the materials of the 'sponge'. It wants to be free to express itself, to explore, to become, to interact, to learn and grow through experience life and others. Otherwise, she becomes miserable, resentful, ugly, disappointed, lost and dead. This Wildness goes beyond the wildness and demands of the child into the encounter and unity with one's true and free nature and Self. When was the last time you listened to your Wildness? With love, Panos
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